Thank you for articulating this — I kept thinking about how, in the poly video they made, in the memoir, and in the bonkers emails and comments Aham has sent… he never takes accountability for acting in a way that hurt his partner at any point. That right there is about as blazing a red flag as you could find.
Well said, Emily. I agree that you see her do the work and do not see Aham do the same. But we are still told that he is good because he cooks sometimes? It’s not enough.
I also think part of what is going on is that Lindy is on the demisexuality spectrum based on several things in the book. It’s not explicitly said but I wonder if it’s part of why she feels the need to defend him. Like he can pull in others because she’s not doing her “wifely duties.” Anyways, I won’t be surprised when this comes to light in 3-5 years.
In Aham's very public commentary about the book, and the response to the book, he spends the majority of his energy yelling at people whose conclusions make him look bad. He never gives the impression that he cares about LIndy more than he cares about his image.
I worry about how someone with that fragile an ego will treat his loved ones in private. My perception has evolved from "wow, she seems unhappy and is possibly lying to herself" to "I'm genuinely afraid for her safety" over the past few days.
She’s not happy. Being grotesquely obese doesn’t happen by accident. Making a living off of it is in poor taste. Spinning liberal fantasies off it as a fat white slave to a black man is disgraceful. I hope she finds a real job a real man and a diet.
Thank you for articulating this — I kept thinking about how, in the poly video they made, in the memoir, and in the bonkers emails and comments Aham has sent… he never takes accountability for acting in a way that hurt his partner at any point. That right there is about as blazing a red flag as you could find.
No matter your relationship structure, that's not ok!!!
Well said, Emily. I agree that you see her do the work and do not see Aham do the same. But we are still told that he is good because he cooks sometimes? It’s not enough.
I also think part of what is going on is that Lindy is on the demisexuality spectrum based on several things in the book. It’s not explicitly said but I wonder if it’s part of why she feels the need to defend him. Like he can pull in others because she’s not doing her “wifely duties.” Anyways, I won’t be surprised when this comes to light in 3-5 years.
In Aham's very public commentary about the book, and the response to the book, he spends the majority of his energy yelling at people whose conclusions make him look bad. He never gives the impression that he cares about LIndy more than he cares about his image.
I worry about how someone with that fragile an ego will treat his loved ones in private. My perception has evolved from "wow, she seems unhappy and is possibly lying to herself" to "I'm genuinely afraid for her safety" over the past few days.
She’s not happy. Being grotesquely obese doesn’t happen by accident. Making a living off of it is in poor taste. Spinning liberal fantasies off it as a fat white slave to a black man is disgraceful. I hope she finds a real job a real man and a diet.