I was raised in the Bible Belt in the 1990s on a steady diet of James Dobson, the moral majority, and "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." My highest calling was to get married, preferably young, have babies and raise them to love Jesus (and America, too).
This just came across my feed, but I’m so glad I found it. I got into an argument with a fairly well known feminist writer who asserted that you could be a feminist and still get Botox because women should have “free choice,” and she attacked me for disagreeing with her. And I’m like, but how do you not see that that’s contributing to unhealthy beauty standards and literally encouraging women to waste their own money on upholding toxic beauty culture…left that convo feeling so gaslit
1 / Why is “there no ethical consumption under Capitalism?” Are you paying attention to only the unhealthy masculine’s version of it?
2 / Race is irrelevant. Wymin of all races in America have the same options, depending on their class.
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Some of what you wrote sounds like you listen a lot to male-controlled media. In post-2008 America, it sounds like the male-controlled media has convinced you of all sorts of things which may not be true.
I’m sad to see the feminist teaching sink so deeply into your psyche. Young women should still put their search for their life mate first, and young men too. Ahead of career.
Men must be the providers, however, so their focus on career is still critically important to their life goals and supporting their family. An army of young women today are being led astray by their feminist mothers who tell them to seek a career, “just in case they ever get divorced” so they aren’t “vulnerable.” And so they seek a career first and treat their family and partner for life as an afterthought. That’s planning to fail. And letting fear of failure lead directly to the path of failure.
The patriarchy is a fiction of modern feminist teachings. Men and women both struggled together, as a couple, as a team. It’s always been the few oligarchs oppressing men and women alike. Not a patriarchy. When your grandfather went down into the coal mines, he wasn’t whistling happily at the thought of “oppressing women.“ He was killing himself for them.
Worse, colleges have become an institution of such degeneracy and depravity, the parents should be very alarmed sending their children there. Young women today feel entitled to embrace their hoe phase. Sometimes their degenerate mothers even encourage it. “Go ahead! Get with the bad boys, you’re young!“
And so from ages 15 to 30 they dive into a decade and a half of sex, drugs, alcohol, giving away their purity, alpha widowing themselves. Then when they are broken, they remember their long lost plan to find a good man. Their most fertile years are gone. A third of couples age 30 struggled with fertility due to one or both of them. And these modern women are broken. They are divorcing their husbands because TikTok made it a trend. They say it’s to “pursue their happiness“… But that always just means to return to the streets and relive their college degeneracy again. It’s broken.
I do hope a new young generation will embrace the revival and put their family first. And value working for their family above working for corporate master who doesn’t give a damn about them.
Your writing, once again, is strong, coherent and makes your case. Thank you for this, Emily.
This just came across my feed, but I’m so glad I found it. I got into an argument with a fairly well known feminist writer who asserted that you could be a feminist and still get Botox because women should have “free choice,” and she attacked me for disagreeing with her. And I’m like, but how do you not see that that’s contributing to unhealthy beauty standards and literally encouraging women to waste their own money on upholding toxic beauty culture…left that convo feeling so gaslit
How compelling, thank you! Some thoughts:
1 / Why is “there no ethical consumption under Capitalism?” Are you paying attention to only the unhealthy masculine’s version of it?
2 / Race is irrelevant. Wymin of all races in America have the same options, depending on their class.
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Some of what you wrote sounds like you listen a lot to male-controlled media. In post-2008 America, it sounds like the male-controlled media has convinced you of all sorts of things which may not be true.
I’m sad to see the feminist teaching sink so deeply into your psyche. Young women should still put their search for their life mate first, and young men too. Ahead of career.
Men must be the providers, however, so their focus on career is still critically important to their life goals and supporting their family. An army of young women today are being led astray by their feminist mothers who tell them to seek a career, “just in case they ever get divorced” so they aren’t “vulnerable.” And so they seek a career first and treat their family and partner for life as an afterthought. That’s planning to fail. And letting fear of failure lead directly to the path of failure.
The patriarchy is a fiction of modern feminist teachings. Men and women both struggled together, as a couple, as a team. It’s always been the few oligarchs oppressing men and women alike. Not a patriarchy. When your grandfather went down into the coal mines, he wasn’t whistling happily at the thought of “oppressing women.“ He was killing himself for them.
Worse, colleges have become an institution of such degeneracy and depravity, the parents should be very alarmed sending their children there. Young women today feel entitled to embrace their hoe phase. Sometimes their degenerate mothers even encourage it. “Go ahead! Get with the bad boys, you’re young!“
And so from ages 15 to 30 they dive into a decade and a half of sex, drugs, alcohol, giving away their purity, alpha widowing themselves. Then when they are broken, they remember their long lost plan to find a good man. Their most fertile years are gone. A third of couples age 30 struggled with fertility due to one or both of them. And these modern women are broken. They are divorcing their husbands because TikTok made it a trend. They say it’s to “pursue their happiness“… But that always just means to return to the streets and relive their college degeneracy again. It’s broken.
I do hope a new young generation will embrace the revival and put their family first. And value working for their family above working for corporate master who doesn’t give a damn about them.
It's not that men have no struggle in choice, it's that men's choices are not scrutinized in the same way as women's choices.
Freedom on an individual level isn't what we are talking about, though. It's about collective liberation. And machismo is absolutely patriarchy.