I was raised in the Bible Belt in the 1990s on a steady diet of James Dobson, the moral majority, and "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." My highest calling was to get married, preferably young, have babies and raise them to love Jesus (and America, too).
Personally, having a choice for any person is a privilege. Men and women. Thinking men have no struggle in choice is wrong. Men have pressure too. Men are under assault in our society for not having done anything. All men are classified in the same category - that of adherents to the patriarchy (whatever that is). There a much deeper control over the lives of humans, one that no one being “educated” wants to address. That is where the privilege is. Humans, women and men alike are basically are slaves to this idea which when confronted would tell them, “Look, it is the other person that is at fault.” Self examination and looking to the real source of our nature is not a popular thing to address.
Freedom is not on the outside, but within the heart. That I am learning even now. I have to address what is inside and the voice which tells me lies first and to look at what is truth. Is is not found in some outside privilege or understanding of what we think is freedom. Makeup or no makeup? Who cares, look in the interior first.
I wish not to diminutize what women are facing. I think the greater factor is that society as a whole seeks to go after a “freedom” and “independence” that is an illusion. There is only one way to find true freedom and most of society today has got it wrong. Both men and women have been duped.
For instance, a small small example: my stepfather was an abusive man. Tough on us boys, cruel to my sisters. He was the machismo of manhood (I won’t call it patriarchy because it wasn’t). By observing him as an adult, he was in Hell. Bound to an idea that was not life giving. Freedom is not in-doing as you please whether the other person likes it or not. Freedom is being in the most captive position and having gained something through our realization of truth. Something I confess I am still learning and will continue to learn.
I’m sad to see the feminist teaching sink so deeply into your psyche. Young women should still put their search for their life mate first, and young men too. Ahead of career.
Men must be the providers, however, so their focus on career is still critically important to their life goals and supporting their family. An army of young women today are being led astray by their feminist mothers who tell them to seek a career, “just in case they ever get divorced” so they aren’t “vulnerable.” And so they seek a career first and treat their family and partner for life as an afterthought. That’s planning to fail. And letting fear of failure lead directly to the path of failure.
The patriarchy is a fiction of modern feminist teachings. Men and women both struggled together, as a couple, as a team. It’s always been the few oligarchs oppressing men and women alike. Not a patriarchy. When your grandfather went down into the coal mines, he wasn’t whistling happily at the thought of “oppressing women.“ He was killing himself for them.
Worse, colleges have become an institution of such degeneracy and depravity, the parents should be very alarmed sending their children there. Young women today feel entitled to embrace their hoe phase. Sometimes their degenerate mothers even encourage it. “Go ahead! Get with the bad boys, you’re young!“
And so from ages 15 to 30 they dive into a decade and a half of sex, drugs, alcohol, giving away their purity, alpha widowing themselves. Then when they are broken, they remember their long lost plan to find a good man. Their most fertile years are gone. A third of couples age 30 struggled with fertility due to one or both of them. And these modern women are broken. They are divorcing their husbands because TikTok made it a trend. They say it’s to “pursue their happiness“… But that always just means to return to the streets and relive their college degeneracy again. It’s broken.
I do hope a new young generation will embrace the revival and put their family first. And value working for their family above working for corporate master who doesn’t give a damn about them.
Your writing, once again, is strong, coherent and makes your case. Thank you for this, Emily.
Personally, having a choice for any person is a privilege. Men and women. Thinking men have no struggle in choice is wrong. Men have pressure too. Men are under assault in our society for not having done anything. All men are classified in the same category - that of adherents to the patriarchy (whatever that is). There a much deeper control over the lives of humans, one that no one being “educated” wants to address. That is where the privilege is. Humans, women and men alike are basically are slaves to this idea which when confronted would tell them, “Look, it is the other person that is at fault.” Self examination and looking to the real source of our nature is not a popular thing to address.
Freedom is not on the outside, but within the heart. That I am learning even now. I have to address what is inside and the voice which tells me lies first and to look at what is truth. Is is not found in some outside privilege or understanding of what we think is freedom. Makeup or no makeup? Who cares, look in the interior first.
It's not that men have no struggle in choice, it's that men's choices are not scrutinized in the same way as women's choices.
I wish not to diminutize what women are facing. I think the greater factor is that society as a whole seeks to go after a “freedom” and “independence” that is an illusion. There is only one way to find true freedom and most of society today has got it wrong. Both men and women have been duped.
For instance, a small small example: my stepfather was an abusive man. Tough on us boys, cruel to my sisters. He was the machismo of manhood (I won’t call it patriarchy because it wasn’t). By observing him as an adult, he was in Hell. Bound to an idea that was not life giving. Freedom is not in-doing as you please whether the other person likes it or not. Freedom is being in the most captive position and having gained something through our realization of truth. Something I confess I am still learning and will continue to learn.
Freedom on an individual level isn't what we are talking about, though. It's about collective liberation. And machismo is absolutely patriarchy.
I’m sad to see the feminist teaching sink so deeply into your psyche. Young women should still put their search for their life mate first, and young men too. Ahead of career.
Men must be the providers, however, so their focus on career is still critically important to their life goals and supporting their family. An army of young women today are being led astray by their feminist mothers who tell them to seek a career, “just in case they ever get divorced” so they aren’t “vulnerable.” And so they seek a career first and treat their family and partner for life as an afterthought. That’s planning to fail. And letting fear of failure lead directly to the path of failure.
The patriarchy is a fiction of modern feminist teachings. Men and women both struggled together, as a couple, as a team. It’s always been the few oligarchs oppressing men and women alike. Not a patriarchy. When your grandfather went down into the coal mines, he wasn’t whistling happily at the thought of “oppressing women.“ He was killing himself for them.
Worse, colleges have become an institution of such degeneracy and depravity, the parents should be very alarmed sending their children there. Young women today feel entitled to embrace their hoe phase. Sometimes their degenerate mothers even encourage it. “Go ahead! Get with the bad boys, you’re young!“
And so from ages 15 to 30 they dive into a decade and a half of sex, drugs, alcohol, giving away their purity, alpha widowing themselves. Then when they are broken, they remember their long lost plan to find a good man. Their most fertile years are gone. A third of couples age 30 struggled with fertility due to one or both of them. And these modern women are broken. They are divorcing their husbands because TikTok made it a trend. They say it’s to “pursue their happiness“… But that always just means to return to the streets and relive their college degeneracy again. It’s broken.
I do hope a new young generation will embrace the revival and put their family first. And value working for their family above working for corporate master who doesn’t give a damn about them.