I do have a guilty for conscience for how long I stayed when I wasn't sure. I want marriage and kids VERY badly and I found a pretty good guy by society's standards to do those things with, so yes, it was hard to leave.
How much of a deep, emotional connection can I realistically expect from a man (who was socialized to never show emotion…
I do have a guilty for conscience for how long I stayed when I wasn't sure. I want marriage and kids VERY badly and I found a pretty good guy by society's standards to do those things with, so yes, it was hard to leave.
How much of a deep, emotional connection can I realistically expect from a man (who was socialized to never show emotions, never be vulnerable)? That was the question I wrestled with and tried to talk to him about.
I'm not a victim in this situation, but I am wondering how well we've equipped men to meet emotional needs for their partners...I don't need a house cleaner or a car fixer as much as I need depth and connection.
I hope you don’t find a man who opens up and is vulnerable but end up not liking him for being too emotional. A lot of women look for that until they get it. This is a big problem men seem to have to grapple with the last few years; women getting the “ick” because he’s emotional and she wonders if he’s stable enough to handle her emotions if he’s got so many of his own. Something to be mindful of. Good luck out there!
I do have a guilty for conscience for how long I stayed when I wasn't sure. I want marriage and kids VERY badly and I found a pretty good guy by society's standards to do those things with, so yes, it was hard to leave.
How much of a deep, emotional connection can I realistically expect from a man (who was socialized to never show emotions, never be vulnerable)? That was the question I wrestled with and tried to talk to him about.
I'm not a victim in this situation, but I am wondering how well we've equipped men to meet emotional needs for their partners...I don't need a house cleaner or a car fixer as much as I need depth and connection.
I hope you don’t find a man who opens up and is vulnerable but end up not liking him for being too emotional. A lot of women look for that until they get it. This is a big problem men seem to have to grapple with the last few years; women getting the “ick” because he’s emotional and she wonders if he’s stable enough to handle her emotions if he’s got so many of his own. Something to be mindful of. Good luck out there!
I'm sure if you aim for that as an early must have priority it'll work out. Pretty hard to fake vs the other roles.