While some, if not most, of what you say is true, I will counter with this: when I divorced my first husband (a “good” one), my household stress levels went down and my house was cleaner (even with a child). I think the expectation of help and not getting it is worse than no help at all.
Additionally, while the husband and kids might be f…
While some, if not most, of what you say is true, I will counter with this: when I divorced my first husband (a “good” one), my household stress levels went down and my house was cleaner (even with a child). I think the expectation of help and not getting it is worse than no help at all.
Additionally, while the husband and kids might be fine if the wife is away for a short period of time, I promise those little concessions compound. Kid 2 wearing kid 1’s shoes might not be a big deal, but what about when kid 2 falls off the playset and breaks an arm because they tripped over shoes two sizes too big? What may seem like a small, inconsequential thing that mom knows (because she’s put in the time and carries the mental load of knowing what belongs to whom) becomes a big issue. Mom gets called anal or obsessive, but these things do matter. And they can’t be assessed after a short absence.
for sure. When my husband is traveling for work I cheerfully clean the house top to bottom and then sit and enjoy it. Having someone scrolling on the couch while doing same is impossible to enjoy.
While some, if not most, of what you say is true, I will counter with this: when I divorced my first husband (a “good” one), my household stress levels went down and my house was cleaner (even with a child). I think the expectation of help and not getting it is worse than no help at all.
Additionally, while the husband and kids might be fine if the wife is away for a short period of time, I promise those little concessions compound. Kid 2 wearing kid 1’s shoes might not be a big deal, but what about when kid 2 falls off the playset and breaks an arm because they tripped over shoes two sizes too big? What may seem like a small, inconsequential thing that mom knows (because she’s put in the time and carries the mental load of knowing what belongs to whom) becomes a big issue. Mom gets called anal or obsessive, but these things do matter. And they can’t be assessed after a short absence.
The expectation of help and not getting it is worse than no help at all. Yes.
for sure. When my husband is traveling for work I cheerfully clean the house top to bottom and then sit and enjoy it. Having someone scrolling on the couch while doing same is impossible to enjoy.
Do you live in my house? *looks around*